WHAT IS A GOD-GIVEN TEMPERAMENT?

Have you ever wondered why some newborns have a strong desire to be held and cuddled while others are more content to be left in their bassinet all alone? These differences are not due to "Learned Behavior." They are instead something that each child was born with. Jeremiah 1:5 explains that God formed each of us while we were still in our mother's womb and that he knew us before we were born! We are each uniquely created individuals from the time we were conceived.

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"Before I formed there in the belly I knew thee;

and before thou camest forth out of the womb I sanctified thee"

Jeremiah 1:5

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Our God-given temperament is very much like an operating system on a computer.

Operating system's are essential because everything a computer was designed to accomplished is dependent upon this system. Likewise our temperaments, or human "Operating Systems", are the foundation that determines how we will relate to our environment and the people in it. They are literally like our very own, personal operating system that is the foundation for what makes us the unique individual that we are.

 

Temperaments determine how we prefer to relate to the people in our lives

and to the world in which we live. 

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God chose the specific temperament that we would need in order to fulfill the purpose that he has for our lives. The APS Temperament Profile not only helps to identify your unique "God-given" temperament but also clarifies the strengths and weaknesses that come along with each one. By gaining an understanding of your specific temperament needs you will be better prepared to fill them in God honoring ways instead of sinful or selfish ways; avoiding unnecessary conflict, turmoil, and anxiety.

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"According as his divine power hath give unto us

all things that pertain unto life and godliness"

2 Peter 1:3

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HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHY:

• You do or do not desire to be around people on a regular basis

• You do or do not depend on people to make decisions for you

• You do or do not want to control other people's lives

• Your mind seemingly never shuts off

• Your children, who have been raised in the same home are very different

• One of your children is easily motivated and the other is not

• Your spouse just does not understand you

• Your wife can't say "No" to anyone who asks her to volunteer

• Your husband needs constant recognition for the things he does

• Your spouse wants to control every decision - every day

• Your spouse won't correct the children - instead he/she gives them what they want

• Your teen won't go to sleep without the TV playing

• Why your husband uses humor during times of contention - which annoys you terribly

• Why one of your children hates being grounded and the other seems to enjoy it

• Why your child has low-self esteem and is often very negative about them self

• Why one of your children asks over and over for friends to join family activities

• Why your daughter constantly tries to control the younger siblings

• Why your wife has financial fears that are not reasonable

• Why your wife struggles with staying home with the kids

• Why you are stressed at your job even though you are thankful for it

• Why you hate it when people make decisions that affect your life without involving you

• Why one of your children never seems to take responsibility for their own actions

• Why your spouse does not like a lot of physical affection

• Why your spouse insists on being alone when he/she gets home from work instead of interacting with the children

• Why your spouse or child spends so much time on the phone/social media

• Why your spouse or child has never met a stranger - they talk openly with everyone

• Why your child seems to take on the moral character of those around them

• Why your spouse expects you to know what they want or desire without telling you

• Why buying your wife flowers just does not have the reaction you thought it would have.

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ARE TEMPERAMENT AND PERSONALITY THE SAME?

No, they are not the same. Our temperaments are something that God chose for us and they do not change. Personalities, on the other hand, are something we choose in order to function in the environment that we live in. They can change depending upon our culture, our religion, our upbringing, our experiences, or our education. They can also vary from day to day, from person to person, or from situation to situation.

 

Our temperaments and our personalities are closely intertwined -

responding and interacting with each other, yet they are not the same. 

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For Example:

A child who was born with a huge temperament need for close intimate personal relationships who is raised in a home where he has been nurtured, loved, and cared for will most often relate to those around him a very positive way.

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A child who was born with the same temperament need for close intimate relationships who was raised in a home where he was abused, neglected, and told he is worthless will most often relate to those around him in a completely different way. His personality may become very guarded, untrusting, and aloof in order to protect himself from additional emotional pain. He may develop inner turmoil, conflict, and anxiety because his temperament needs for close relationships are still intense, but they are not being fulfilled.

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HOW DO WE LEARN MORE ABOUT THE TEMPERAMENT THAT GOD HAS CHOSEN?

The Arno Profile System, available through Purpose of Heart, Women's Ministry, has been proven to be 93.7% accurate in determining temperament in 3 different areas of our lives; Inclusion, Control, and Affection. Our intricate "Operating Systems" are not typically the same temperament in each of these 3 areas. The Arno Profile System is highly accurate because it notes the blending of temperaments that is so common in our unique lives.

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The profiling system was designed specifically to show you that you were created by an all knowing God who has a unique plan for your life. It is not a "Psychological test" that may cause hesitation. Instead, it simply gives the information about who God truly made you to be so that you can use this information to improve your relationships and have more peace and joy in your life. 

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It is a simple profile that takes only a few minutes to complete. It asks 18 questions that are very basic, non-invasive, and easy to answer. There are no "Right" or "Wrong" answers. You will be amazed to see the indepth information that can be obtained about the "Real You" from the simple answers that you give.

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The 6-8% error rate is typically from people who do not or who cannot respond accurately to the profile questionnaire. For example: those with drug or alcohol issues severe enough to not allow them to answer appropriately, those on psychiatric meds that change thinking processes, those who are ordered by the court to complete classes but who have no desire to truly seek the truth about themselves, or individuals who have such strong learned behaviors they can only respond according to how they have been told they should think.

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WHO CAN TAKE PART IN THE APS PROFILING SYSTEM?

There are three different profiles available; one for children, one for teens, and one for adults. You can do just one to learn about yourself or have the entire family/work place team complete them in order to begin understanding why each of you relate and interact the way that you do.

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DO I HAVE TO BE A CHRISTIAN IN ORDER TO PARTICIPATE?

You do not have to be a Christian in order to learn more about your God given temperament. People of any faith or no faith at all can benefit - but accepting that the Lord created you for a specific purpose can bring peace that is undeniable for sure!

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WHAT IS THE COST AND HOW CAN I COMPLETE THE APS?

Because we feel that this is a very important tool which can be foundational for emotional and spiritual well-being we offer this profile at a very reduced rate of only $15 per profile, even though the recommended fee is $50 to $70.

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THIS TYPICALLY TAKES 2 APPOINTMENTS. ONE TO EXPLAIN THE PROCESS & PROFILE AND ANOTHER TO GO OVER THE RESULTS . IF MORE THAN ONE PERSON IS PARTICIPATING, WE CAN DO THE FIRST APPOINTMENT TOGETHER FOLLOWED UP BY AN ADDITIONAL APPOINTMENT FOR EACH PERSON THEREAFTER. IT IS BEST FOR COUPLES TO BE PRESENT FOR EACH APPOINTMENT IN ORDER TO GAIN A BETTER UNDERSTANDING OF YOURSELF AND YOUR SPOUSE.

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