KIDS IN CONTROL

FOR PARENTS

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WHAT IS "KIDS IN CONTROL" COMMUNITY CARE GROUP - FOR PARENTS?

This is a community care group for PARENTS. It is a special time for us to talk, as adults, about what anger is while presenting some fun and easy ways to help your children learn to become a Kid in Control! We feel it is important for parents to learn how to talk to their own children about the topic of anger while creating an at home system of support within the family.

 

WHAT AGE IS "KIDS IN CONTROL" MOST SUITED FOR:

No matter what age your children are - the lessons taught within Kids in Control can readily be applied.

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AN ADDED BONUS:

While we work hard each week to learn how to teach our children to become  "Kids in Control" of their anger - the parents also learn to become "Parents in Control" of their own anger as well! Even though our lessons are disguised in fun and playful ways that children will understand and enjoy - they are practical truths that every age can benefit from for sure!

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ANGER AND OUR THREE PARTS:

God teaches us that we are three part beings; spirit, soul, and body. It is important to consider each one of our three parts when trying to understand anger and where it comes from. Because of this, we will be discussing things such as; food & behavior, electronics and brain function, the importance of quality sleep, essential nutrients, our God given temperaments, and how to share the gospel with your children, in addition to the practical lessons on anger!

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OVERVIEW OF OUR  A.N.G.E.R. LESSONS

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SESSION ONE - WHAT IS A "KID IN CONTROL?"

We explain the importance of teaching your children the importance of not allowing other people to control their own personal reactions in a negative way. When someone taunts or teases you and you respond negatively you have allowed them to manipulate you! You have literally handed over the seat of power and control to someone else. You become their puppet - responding to them as they pull your strings! A Kid in Control is someone who remains strong by simply walking away while making the decision not to engage in negative behavior! We use practical tools such as puppets and/or the remote control for the television to make the point that you have control over whether or not you allow someone else to "Push your buttons". In order for a negative reaction to occur in you - you had to first hand over the remote control of your emotions or the strings of the puppet - giving them power over you!

 

You have the power to remain in control of your own responses! Don't give that power away!

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THE REST OF THE LESSONS ARE TAUGHT WITH A "HIGH 5 PHRASE"

THAT UTILLIZES EACH INDIVIDUAL LETTER FROM THE WORD ANGER

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SESSION TWO- "A" ADMIT YOU GET ANGRY AND ACKNOWLEDGE YOUR ANGER ALARMS!

The very first lesson in our A-N-G-E-R series shows the importance of teaching your child that they are in a safe environment where they can freely admit that they do get angry! Admitting this is the first step in learning to be a Kid in Control of their anger.

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You will also learn to explain that there are many different warning signs that can occur BEFORE we end up responding negatively to our anger. These signs are very much like the loud noise a smoke detector makes when there is a fire. This loud siren can be very annoying for sure.... but it is not the real problem - it is simply alerting you that something else is wrong. We each have our own anger alarms that do the same thing; our hearts begin to beat faster, we feel like yelling, our fists clench, or our faces turn bright red. These are simply signals that warn us of impending danger just as the smoke detector does. Learning to identify these early warning signs of anger is the second step in learning to be a Kid in Control of our anger!

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SESSION THREE- "N" NOTICE THE NASTY NUISANCES SO THEY WILL NEVER BE NEAR!

There are certain "Triggers" that might really set off our anger; certain people, specific activities, or some situations that simply annoy us. Determining your "Nasty Nuisances" can be very important so that you can make the responsible choice to avoid them whenever possible!

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SESSION FOUR - "G" GATHER THE GROSS GARBAGE AND GET IT GONE!

We each have garbage in our lives that can cause much of our anger. Learning about this garbage and choosing to "Take it Out" can be very beneficial - Our garbage can be things like jealousy, selfishness, and pride. When we remove our garbage we also remove many of the opportunities for getting angry as well.

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SESSION FIVE - "E" ESTABLISH EXCELLENCE BY ELIMINATING EVERY EXCUSE!

Blaming others for your anger is a common problem that must be eliminated! Children do this when they say things like "It was not my fault", "She made me do it", or "If they did not...... I would not have......" You will learn to teach your kids the importance of taking responsibility for the things that they have done instead of making excuses which only escalates the problem.

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SESSION SIX - "R" RESIST ROTTEN REACTIONS BY RESPONDING RIGHT!

Learning to say "I was wrong", "I am sorry", and "I forgive you" will avoid many rotten reactions. We spend time teaching you, how to teach your kids how to apologize properly and how to have compassion for those who treat them poorly. 

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Having an "Anger Management" plan in place is also a good way to prepare to respond right! We will help you to become familiar with a list of things your children can do when their own personal anger alarms start going off. These can be things such as: going for a walk, counting to 50, asking to take a "Break" so you can cool off, listening to music, shooting some hoops, writing a letter to express your feelings, reading a book, or talking to an adult. You will help each of your  children create a written "plan of action" that they can practice so they will be ready with a proper response - even before they are faced with an upsetting situation.